Let’s take this moment to notice our breathing, to inhale slowly through the nose and exhale fully through the nose. In and out. Continue on this way, noticing your breath, while I tell you a story.
This is the story of a person who never in her life knew she mattered.
Once upon a time there was a person who’d been on a spiritual journey for thirty years. She’d read everything that had anything to do with ‘the Way’, the Tao, the path of capital S self-learning. Hew whole purpose was self-realization. She was diligent in her quest to ‘become awake’, and each day she believed she was a little closer to spiritual enlightenment. In fact, after thirty years she thought she was one of the most enlightened people she’d ever met.
One day, a while after she’d made a decision to change her life and sell the beautiful house she’d built, and leave her family and friends, she realized that she was still attached to all of them. In fact, she didn’t know who she was without them.
She realized her ego was attached to everything she’d cared about – an ugly realization for someone who thinks they are enlightened.
If this story is resonating with you, please take another deep breath.
Thankfully there was a benefit to having been on a spiritual journey for thirty years. She’d built up muscles to self-remember and could dig into her emotions and start to get to the bottom of why she was ego-attached to everything in her life.
The first thing she did was go back through all the spiritual books she’d read over thirty years.
The second thing she did was make notes and write out ideas of how she could be so ego-attached.
She talked to friends and wrote in her journal but couldn’t figure out what she’d missed.
Then she went to a workshop and the workshop leader said, “You know you’re the most important person in the room and if you don’t you should.”
What exactly is wrong with being the most important person in the room?
Our person was shocked. She was also repulsed. She thought, ‘how dare anyone suggest that I should think I’m the most important person in the room!’ I’m a nice person, not a self-centred egotistical meanie.
If felt wrong, but she couldn’t get the idea our of her mind. And the more she thought about it, the more she recognized that there was nothing wrong with being the most important person in the room. She asked herself, “What exactly is wrong with being the most important person in the room?
We’re already divine.
And that’s when the truth unraveled. She could see that she never in her whole life knew she was the most important person in it. She didn’t know she mattered, and she’d used the people she loved, her house, everything outside herself to prove her life had meaning. It was as if she’d lived her life like she was on the outside looking in instead of right in the middle. She couldn’t see there was no enlightenment to find because she was already divine.
I Am The Most Important Person In The Room –
-that’s what she began to tell herself. At first it felt uncomfortable and she didn’t want to believe it. But the more she said it, the more she felt connected to everything around her. She didn’t feel lonely, like when she didn’t know she was the most important person.
It was a simple concept but not an easy one to remember all the time. So she learned to remind herself. And it helped to take a deep breath and repeat the idea over and over, “I am the most important person in the room. And the more she said it, the more happy and powerful and ‘en-light-ened’ she felt.
Take a deep breath in. Allow yourself to breathe fully out. In and out. With gratitude.
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